If you’ve ever asked yourself ‘what kind of man is right for me?’ you’ve come to the right place.
However, the truth is that answering this question can be tricky.
Because often, we women are attracted to one type of guy, (for example, the ‘bad guy’), yet we shun the guy who is actually right for us.
So what guy do we usually go for? Many women choose the guy who excites them, not the guy who is RIGHT for them.
And the guy who excites them is often a bad guy, the handsome guy or a rich guy.
Most of all, young women (30 and under) tend to love the bad guy. The bad guy is usually the type of guy who looks great, is exciting, has many great masculine qualities, yet may be a bit of a player.
They know how to trigger attraction in a woman, and they have a lot of ‘game’.
These guys may not know it consciously, but they definitely make a habit of being good at charming women, because they do the same thing over and over which gets them the results they want!
So in this article, we’re going to talk about:
- The one most important thing to remember when looking for a man
- What you need to do to bring out the best in ANY man
- What type of guy is actually RIGHT for you; and
- The steps you need to take next in order to find him.
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Remember This To Know What Kind Of Guy Is Right For You
Here’s something I want you to remember if you want to find the best answer to the question ‘what kind of man is right for me?’
What triggers sexual attraction in us is not always the same as what is actually good for us long term.
Put another way, just because a guy makes our life exciting, doesn’t mean he makes it infinite.
The bad guy or the rich guy is the guy you and I might believe can make our lives feel full and exciting.
But excitement isn’t the same as happiness. Excitement is fleeting. Happiness is a state of heart openness and overall joy for life that you experience long-term.
An exciting bad guy, rich guy or handsome guy can only provide that for you if he truly cares for you and wants to devote himself to you.
MORE: 6 Burning Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You.
Here’s the thing about bad guys, rich guys and handsome guys: they’re usually very good at what they do for a living.
They might also be extremely good at popular sports and might as well be the ALPHA MALE in a certain group!
But none of these factors make a guy really good relationship material.
This is also where a lot of women trap themselves; they know they SHOULD avoid the guys who provide excitement in the short term (and nothing real long term), BUT they can’t help themselves!
Sometimes, you might even be dating one of these types of guys, but feel too scared to leave these types of guys out of a fear of being lonely.
So now we have to ask the question:
Can you have all the exciting traits in one good man?
Can you have a bad guy and a good guy, all in one?
Can You Have A Good Guy & A Bad Guy All In ONE?
Not many men will be able to embody the good guy and as well as the bad guy.
However, it is possible, but it partly depends on you. In other words, the quality of the guy you attract into your life (and keep in your life), also depends on you.
So here’s what you need to do:
- Ask yourself whether you embody your dark feminine as well as your light feminine.
- Proceed to embody both of these, so that you can attract a man who is more ‘whole’.
I strongly believe that a man can have the quality of being a bad guy as well as being the good guy. He can have both in his character.
But you need to be a woman who inspires and brings out the best in a man. So consider this:
Instead of looking at men as vehicles for feeling excitement and attraction, look at what you can bring out within yourself, in order to inspire both the dark (bad boy energy) and the light (the good guy) in men.
It is up to you to attract your ideal man in to your life. More importantly, you have to be so outstanding that you would attract this kind of man in to your life!
CLICK HERE to LEARN the one specific emotional trigger within every masculine man that inspires him to want to take care of you, worship you and deeply commit to you.
If You’re A Woman, THIS is The Kind Of Man Who Is Right For You
After 12 years of working closely with thousands of women, here’s what I’ve learned. I’ve learned that most women want a specific type of man (the type we described above), but what they need is something different altogether.
Most women actually need their man to be:
- Attuned to you
- Have a masculine direction of his own (because without it, you will not trust him and will not feel attraction for him).
These are the 4 main traits that you need in a man, and everything else is a bonus. So here’s what I want you to do.
You need to write a specific type of list.
(The reason is because who you choose to be in a relationship with will be a key factor, most likely the most important factor in ensuring your lifelong happiness!)
On your list, you’ll need to draw a line down the middle.
- On one side, label ‘qualities I want in a man’; and
- On the other side, label it ‘qualities I don’t want’.
Be honest, and go crazy with it. Once you’re done, you’ll be more clear about what you want, and then be more aware of what it is you’re after in your love life!
And then here’s what I want you to do:
- Turn the piece of paper over, and write the same list for your man. First, draw a line down the middle of the page.
- Then, write down all the qualities that HE would want in his woman on one side, and write down all the qualities he may NOT like in his woman on the right side of the page.
To help you with this, I recommend that you learn the signs that a woman is low value in the eyes of men.
CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report. (Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
There are 7 common signs a woman is perceived as low value to all men, because men simply perceive value differently to women. Do you know what these signs are and how to avoid them like the plague? CLICK HERE to download this special report.
As you know, nobody is perfect. So I’m not asking you to filter out all men who may appear to have one or two of the bad qualities you have on your list, or to feel defeated if you know you have a few of the qualities that this guy doesn’t have. like in a woman.
What I’m asking you to do is to get more clear and more aware of what you need to be in order to attract this type of guy.
When you have the awareness, you can then consciously choose to embody this woman (in other words, become more of who you are).
You can be all types of women. You don’t have to be just one type of woman.
- You can be good and bad.
- You can be dark and light.
- You can be deeply feeling as well as fun and playful.
- You can be smart as well as being a little ditzy.
- You can be extremely warm and inviting, but also cold when you need to be.
And the truth is that you’ll need ALL of these dimensions for you in order to attract the man who is right for you.
Because the man who is right for you is the man whom you can be all of yourself with.
And vice versa.
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. Together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 15 million women through their free articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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