Let’s start by saying that we all they are a little nervous when it comes to a new partner, especially when it comes to the bedroom.
After all, we not only want to be attractive to our partner, we want to be competent to make them feel good! And that’s something we don’t want to fail at.
So even though this article is written from a negative point of view – what are you doing mal – it will still come from a heart-centered place of understanding that we don’t need to feel flawed or damaged because of the mistakes we make in bed.
My goal here is to talk about the mistakes women make with men in the bedroom to avoid any obvious problems later on.
There are some obvious things to avoid:
- Keep your teeth away from Mr. Happy at all times …
- Excessive hugs: Anything that lasts more than 10 minutes will feel suffocating …
- Doing the position of “dead starfish” in bed, very bad …
- 100 questions later: save for the next day …
And I want to add that just because you read about a great move in the bed of a magazine in the grocery box, this is not gospel. Just do a few things RIGHT in bed to earn his love and respect.
What’s wrong with bed number 1: you’re not playing to win …
You may have heard of this in the past, but there is a rule for playing this love game:
Play to WIN … Don’t play to don’t miss …
There’s a difference here, and you may miss it at first glance.
Playing to win is a fully committed game …
Playing a don’t lose is a scary cat game
Playing in bed is simply staying focused on what your husband is showing you and telling you the level of intimacy. And stay focused on that as a problem for both men and women.
There’s a big scene in Woody Allen’s Annie Hall movie where Woody Allen talks to his psychiatrist about his sex life, as he says, “We May have sex! It’s like … maybe 3 times a week! “
Cut to his girlfriend talking to his psychiatrist about the same: “We are always having sex! I like… 3 times a week! “
It’s fun and illustrates something that isn’t often talked about:
There is currently an epidemic of sex-hungry husbands in the world. You may not know it, though it’s there.
The desires and needs of women are receiving endless public attention today in the media. So how come we can’t talk about married men’s greatest desire: why? more sex?
Take a look at your own level of commitment and see if you’re really “all inside”. You may be surprised at what you find …
What are you doing wrong in bed number 2: you don’t have it fun…
I really can’t stress enough – guys aren’t looking for fun partners in life. I bet the same goes for you too.
No one wants an old, boring fart for a lover. And that also applies to the bedroom.
When you’re with a man, how much fun do you have?
I find that if the person I’m with isn’t particularly interested, or isn’t really enthusiastic or funny, it’s because of their luggage.
And like it or not, the best relationship you can expect to have with someone will be directly proportional to the amount of garbage you carry.
The fastest way a guy can know if you’re emotionally healthy is to see how much fun you have. When a person feels free enough to have fun, they are probably quite relaxed inside.
What are you doing wrong in bed number 3: you are no a porn star …
I don’t mean you’re not a porn star and you’re not must be a porn star for him, no. In fact I am saying the opposite: Women often try things they see in porn movies without realizing it Because this position / movement / phrase was used first.
Why does this thing attract men …? Etc.
In fact, you can learn a lot from adult movies. However, it is necessary to read between the lines why a certain technique was used.
For example: You know those scenes where the boy puts his …
No, I’m sorry, I won’t go in that some kind of detail here …
BUT I’ll explain a bit what you’re looking for in these movies that you rarely live in real life:
- Presence – how the women seem to be “there” – doesn’t seem to have been lost in the memories of the Downton Abbey episodes …
- Enthusiasm – It seems like TO WANT being there with the man, excited to give pleasure …
- Acceptance – Men need to feel that the woman they are with completely accepts them what is he like. A much weirder experience than you might think …
- Desired – He wants to feel like she really wants to HEnot just a part of it, like your wallet …
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either.
FROM A MAN: This is what we men want, and adult filmmakers know it.
Sure, some of them may deviate from certain fetishes and fantasies, but they all play into those common needs. Almost every time.
So if you add these elements to your intimate time, you’ll be amazed at how they respond. Not only EN the bedroom, but also outside.
What’s wrong with bed number 4: You’re not playing before …
The previous game is my description of that moment in a relationship when you are not yet in the bedroom. Nor is it “prejudice.”
It’s just a way of acknowledging that if you don’t pay attention to the quality of your relationship outside of the bedroom, you’ll probably suffer a bit when it comes time to get together in the bedroom.
You have to play your sex life beforehand so that you don’t have this stressful relationship on the outside, and then wait for the physical intimacy to somehow “happen”. We know not, right?
Playing beforehand requires thinking. It takes a while focus.
Because one of the easiest things to “let go” is the attention we give to our relationship. After all, it has to be done effortlessly when it’s “right,” right?
But a relationship has care and nourishment, like anything else in our lives that needs maintenance. Love is not a “worry-free” package.
And there are no guarantees if they are damaged!
So make sure you pay attention to where she should be and don’t let your relationship deteriorate just because you think she should “take care of herself.”
What are you doing wrong in bed number 5: you’re always waiting for it …
This is probably one of the most common complaints, and many women do not understand it.
Let me tell you this …
The boys love to get started at first, especially when they receive our advances. This validates us as men, that we are not only manly and sexy, but desired.
But later, we have a big question that comes up, and it may sound familiar, “Are you just with me, or do you really want me?”
You see, both men and women need to feel DESIRED.
This is why many people end up cheating on their relationships. Someone comes when the relationship is at a point of madness, and they are real, passionate wish. This is incredibly seductive.
So if you’re always waiting for your man to start, why not? YOU wanting to feel wanted … stop and think for a moment like EL it might feel the same way.
For many women, there is a big risk factor in this.
- You don’t want to be “fucking” sexually assertive …
- You don’t want to risk being rejected …
Well, the guys obviously have no problem with the “whore” part. But we also have the same fear of rejection as you. It’s a shame.
The fact is that A man is much more likely to be rejected by sex than a woman. This should be common sense for you and almost everyone who reads this.
I propose that there be a balance to the initiative of the bedroom.
By the way, being aggressive is a great excitement for boys. We love it when a woman takes over and asks for what she wants.
What do you think?
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