Are you waiting for the phone to ring? Are you waiting for him to call? Let me help you with if you need to call him, understanding men and what you can do about it.
There are a lot of dating tips for women on this topic because it is a difficult topic that all single girls have to deal with. After a great first date and a strong connection, the excitement increases. This is especially true at the end of your appointment, when he asks to see you again.
He says he will call to set the next date. So wait … and wait. Stress increases, and for some women, this becomes anxiety. But he does not call and you feel more than disappointed: you feel devastated! How could I do that to you?
What is a woman supposed to do? You may feel confused, rejected, or in despair. How come he didn’t call when you were having so much fun? You could say he did too, so what’s the problem?
Understand men: should I call him?
You might think that calling him is the answer. Why not, right? After all, you are both adults. This is a new era in dating. Men and women are more equal than ever. Dating is more modern!
It is easy to be convinced that this is by far the fastest way to end stress and keep waiting.
However, as a love and dating coach for women, I’m not a fan of calling men or making contact at the beginning of dating, and here’s why. I have three big reasons why calling him to reassure your mind is a big mistake.
1. What interest is there?
You want to know what a man will do without your guidance because it tells you how interested he really is. If he can’t even make a call or ask you out, he’s not interested, no matter how much your first date may seem.
There are no valid excuses, but I and my clients have heard many of them. Excuses include being very busy at work, a huge project with a lot of pressure, a sudden illness and even a death in the family. Some men can’t face any confrontation, so they invent lies that sound reasonable to keep them from questioning them.
2. You will be desperate
When you pick up this phone and contact it, you run the risk of looking desperate. Yes, even today many men will think this if you call him. This is a fact when it comes to understanding men.
3. You will take control of the chase
If you make this call and it goes well, you may be tempted to continue on this path. Whenever you are not called back or asked to leave, you will call or text to find out what’s going on and ask to see you again.
Now you chase him and that never ends well. If you’re going to chase a man, he’s definitely not that interested. But you may be curious enough to stay in the hopes of getting lucky.
I know it’s not easy to deal with the anguish of not knowing. You may go crazy wondering what’s going on. Some women begin to think that she became ill or injured. Trust me, she’s perfectly fine, but she’s not calling you.
Learn to read between the lines
This may sound strange, but when a man doesn’t call you, he still communicates loud and clear. He says, “I’m sorry, love, I don’t like it so much.” Once you realize the fact this is the message he is sending, now you are on your way to understanding men.
Not calling communicates their lack of real interest in you or perhaps finding love.
The good news is that you’ll stop waiting on the phone and break free to move on to meet better men! There are good men. Don’t waste your precious time waiting for someone to call. I don’t care who he is, how well you did, or what a good catch he seems to be. He is not the man for you or YOU WILL HAVE CALLED.
How long should you wait for him to call?
If you’ve had a great time with a man and you haven’t heard from him in seven days, let him go. When a man is in you, he won’t wait a week to call you, no matter what.
He will want to see you again and move heaven and earth to make this happen. Sometimes there are mitigating circumstances, but this is very rare.
Don’t assume that their excuses are real and that this situation applies to you because the odds are so high that you just don’t call them. I know this sounds hard, but isn’t the truth better than another false hope and more wasted time?
Your inability to call due to illness, your job or boss, your ex, a death in the family, etc., if true, warns that it will not be your priority. If you experience a loss, you may not be ready to go out for a while anyway.
Why did he say he would call?
The hard truth is that there are a lot of decent men who don’t want to hurt you, but who don’t know what else to say at the end of a date. They think saying “I’ll call you” is easier because they think that’s what you expect. Many men feel pressured to be a nice guy and think that not asking hurts too much if they are not interested.
What can you do?
Be smart! Learn what men really mean when they are evasive. Know that when a man says, “I’ll call you,” he may never do so. That way, you won’t be disappointed or disappointed. You can do business and meet other men. And if you call, it’s a wonderful surprise!
If a man is really interested, he will contact you in a few days and ask you to leave again for the following week. Now this is a man with potential.
For more information on understanding men and finding a quality guy, listen to my free 5 Safe Ways to Attract a Quality Guy
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