Do you think that you are too unattractive for online dating? You are not alone.
A good portion of the men who book appointments with me say they are too ugly for dating apps. Guess what you and they have in common? You are all very wrong. When I’m done with my clients, most of their accumulated fears have completely dissolved. After a week, they start sending me excited messages about how they get matches for the first time in many years, and a week later they sing praises to me in a written testimony. Don’t you believe me? Read them yourself;)
I’ve literally never had a client contact me after our last date to complain about the lack of results or to leave me a negative review. Am I a magical unicorn princess who solves problems with a touch of my hair and a stroke of my magic wand? Of course I am, but I also offer practical tips. The truth is dating apps can work for 99% of people if you know how to use them. With a little work (and a great workout), you’ll be there in no time.
Surprisingly, almost all of this work involves being honest with yourself. In my experience, as someone who consults with frustrated people for a living, your problem is probably one of the following:
A) The first is the big one! UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. I’ll be direct with you, if you’re a bald guy in your 40s, you probably won’t match up with a freshman, but you can match up with a 40-year-old yoga instructor. If you’re overweight, you probably won’t match a Sports Illustrated model, but you can match an attractive woman. Will he be overweight? Possibly, but you’re a man too. If you’re a white guy who lives in a small town in Vermont and you’re only interested in Japanese women … “Really?” Manage your expectations! You can find a woman who will make you happy and fuck you like that gross, gross you are a rock star. Listen, I’m not judging you for being attracted to beautiful women … everyone makes a double take when they see a beautiful woman. I’m just suggesting (lovingly) not to put all the eggs in their hot basket.
B) Your photos are unattractive. Please note that I said yours PICTURES they are unattractive, not that you are unattractive. Don’t be dramatic, just take better pictures. Check out the previous photo blogs here and here for some tips.
C) A bad biography. She’s not interested in a cheesy pun, the story of your life, a list of requirements for your dream girl, bragging rights, or a bitch party about how much you hate online dating. If you need help, check out my previous blog about bios here.
D) You live in a rural area. This is shit, I’m sorry. I come from a small town and I understand that pickins can be thin. Consider changing your zip code to the nearest decent-sized city. Don’t catch it and say you’re from New York if you’re in Kansas, but it’s okay to use the zip code of a nearby city as long as you’re aware of where you live and are willing to do more. of the trip.
Do yourself a favor the next time you find yourself having a party of pity for being too ugly for online dating. Take a look at your profile to make sure you’re putting your best foot forward and adjusting accordingly. You’re almost certainly not too ugly to find love, sex, or company in dating apps.
If you feel a little lost, hit me. I’ll pass your profile from busted to bangin ‘, or you can always get a gift card for a friend!
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