By now, you’re probably thinking that you should be the special person you’ve been dreaming of. But that is not the case. Why are you still single? You can answer this in different ways. But usually, most of us feel that we are not succeeding due to various surface pressures.
Dating comes in handy after we try to look inside ourselves
We can blame everything that has happened in our lives for our lack of success in dating. However, the first place we should look is within ourselves. We have to start from the inside because most of us are self-sabotaging. Having this feature means that:
1. Believing that we do not deserve happiness
We usually see the pattern forming in our lives. For example, something really wonderful might be happening to us right now. A few months later, this wonderful thing is taken away. If this is the pattern you normally see in your life, you will not see the good in all situations because you believe in the pattern.
2. Don’t trust the people around you
We’ve been hurt so many times in our lives and that makes us build walls. We don’t let people in and we firmly believe that they will leave. This has happened to us all our lives, so we know the situation is inevitable. We don’t usually take our relationships seriously because of our fear of being hurt.
3. They are always looking for something better
Whenever we are in a relationship, we have this painful thought in our mind. What if there is something better for me? When you’re in a bad relationship, it’s normal to think like that. However, this becomes toxic when everything is perfectly fine, but that thought is still stuck in your head.
If we fix these beliefs, we can definitely expect to meet people in a positive way. Fixing our self-sabotage shot does not guarantee that we will succeed. However, what we will have is a better understanding of ourselves, people, and relationships. Finally, we will find the right person for us because of our attitude. For more tips on dating and relationships, read other blog posts.
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