What’s the worst thing you can do in your relationship?
Let me tell you.
First, I was putting some great grinding finishes on my coffee machine this morning when I thought about it hit me. Surrounded by so much technology, we have become accustomed to it automating the basics of our lives.
Unfortunately, many women make the mistake of applying this. “put it on and forget about it”Mentality to things they shouldn’t do.
I like relationshipsfor example.
It’s easy to assume that we can just turn a dial, put it on “Happiness 24 hours a day” and sit back and relax.
This is especially true in the beginning. When we are in love and our brain is on its knees in a hormone cocktail to feel good, it’s easy feel invincible.
Turning with the tide
But the truth is that relationships change over time. Women know this, but many of us take it for granted that it seems like nothing could go wrong.
How could this wonderful new person you met not be perfect?
When things go so well, how could something so good come out?
And like a clock, we hear blind when things start to get tough. When our partner turns out to have as many quirks and idiosyncrasies as we do, the disillusionment is installed.
Then we will bury our head in the sand denial because life changes, including the people we love.
But that it is not the real problem; all couples go through this phase.
The most costly mistake you can make is to believe that things will work out just train alone.
But they won’t, because your relationship doesn’t work on autopilot.
The only real way out of the inevitable “wake up and smell the coffee“The phase is to roll with the changes in your relationship. Otherwise, you will cross the point of no return.
This is where your differences come in unacceptable to move forward. Then the separation seems not more left option.
Growth in acceptance
But it doesn’t have to be that way. While it is devastating to leave your relationship to chance, the solution is surprisingly without complications.
The fact is that you have to accept that romance is one temporal phenomenon. These passionate feelings may come and go, but they only get better over time.
I know couples who have been together for decades and they all have one thing in common. They have mastered the art of dodging their differences.
Are you no a carbon copy of your partner, no surprise. You will eventually come across more than a hundred different things, big and small.
But the real trick is to know where each of you comes from. What’s the story behind your arguments?
Why did you grow up feeling so strong about your relationship problems?
How do childhood experiences, past relationships, and moral values fit into the big picture?
These are the questions that every woman she would have to deal with her boyfriend.
It may take months or even years to fully discover these things about each other.
But it doesn’t have to be all at once. Like an onion, half the fun of the relationship is peeling back the layers one by one.
While the process may make you cry at times, it’s still worth it. And this is something you will never believe in the illusion of perpetual perfection.
Speaking of which, get to deeper level of understanding is to do so CONNECTION. But most women don’t know their husband’s connection style, which makes it twice as difficult for them to “get” really.
You should definitely take a look at this if you want to keep your relationship from getting stuck permanently.
Yours in perfect passion …
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED ON 9/27/2021
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