I want to share 3 important tips on relationships for women. Because if you want to win the love of the man you want, you have to make him LOVE you.
He must really want you, at a level that exceeds his normal level of feeling “affectionate but logical.”
For many women, this state is not something they are familiar with creating a man.
Most of the attraction a woman creates with her physical appearance and sexuality.
To create real emotional connection with a man is a different game.
If you want to build a strong relationship with a man, the best thing you can do is create that kind of desire and attraction that he can’t resist.
Many men find that this is the energy that keeps them engaged in the relationship.
For a man, much of the relationship for him is the emotion of your touch, the edifying word of praise or acceptance. It’s in the simplest parts of a relationship: the things you do that you probably do overlook easily.
So let’s look at three ways to create this kind of irresistible attraction with a man.
Here are 3 relationship tips for women: How to make them really want you:
Relationship Tip 1: Remember that love is a voluntary process
There is a saying:
“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can keep him …”
That’s why you need to remember the power of surrender when it comes to a relationship.
When we get to a place where we feel our partner is running away, maybe he walks away, the temptation is to rush in and pull him back.
Hell – Drag him back!
When we lose this sense of closeness, a natural panic is created that leads us to this place: the fear of loss.
It’s scary rejection… fear of denial …
But in the end it all comes down to fear, and that’s usually because we don’t feel in control.
One of the most common experiences for a woman is this panic disconnect. The fundamental impetus of a woman is to create and nurture connections.
Losing a connection feels like a small death of the spirit and therefore sends you into a spiral to experience this flood of fear.
I can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve received emails and questions from women asking me something like this:
“Carlos, I have this guy I met. We got it right if we didn’t, and we jumped straight into a relationship. But after a while I saw that I had anger issues / privacy issues / problems with my ex-wife, etc. He started treating me horribly, and I abused him too.
“So we broke up, and it’s been a few days, but I’m overcoming it. I can’t believe I let myself be treated like that and not be respected. I realize it’s finally over.
“So … I need your advice. How can I get it back?”
I know it sounds a little crazy, but that’s what I mean by daily base. And I don’t move or tease in any way.
This is the Krazy-glue dam that a loving connection creates in us.
It’s a powerful blend of hormones and emotions that really hooks us. I’m sure you’ve experienced a friend or someone you know who has been trapped in this emergency black hole. panic when they have love problems.
It all seems very irrational, too. Crazy love, as they say.
You may have heard that saying: If you love someone, release them. Be patient that love will return you. And if it doesn’t, it shouldn’t be.
I know the thought is not exactly enriching, but it is true in many ways. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either.
But when you get into it, it is the most mature relationships that are built on the understanding that each person CHOOSES to be there.
There is NO compulsion or obligation, and this allows us to relax within the relationship.
Which brings us to …
Relationship Tip # 2: Relaxed women are always the most attractive.
The plague of the 21st century is not a new strain of flu. It’s the stress and anxiety that everyone seems to carry every day.
You see it in the faces of people walking down the street on their way to work, in the aisles of grocery stores, in the fingers that hold the steering wheel so tight that they have white knuckles.
We’re so anxious and tense, and we don’t know why.
Or maybe we do.
The tension of modern life it just takes us out of our loving and relaxed state.
It’s hard to relax when the world tells you a million messages about:
- – How to be happy …
- – How to look …
- – How to eat …
- – How to have sex …
- – How to love …
- – How to hate …
- – How to act …
The list is endless. And if we let them tell us how to live, we lose touch.
One of the steps I often take to coach my clients is to do a “media fast”.
No news, no ads, no celebrity news, no media intervention. You can do this for a day, or even longer, which I highly recommend.
You’ll be amazed at the effect it has on your attitude and well-being to break with the need to be so “connected”.
I could take a look at the main BBC news, but I can’t afford any live news. I discovered that in a few days my optimism and perspective was betterand my happiness was also much greater.
And yes, I can tell you that disconnecting from Facebook is also a big step in the right direction.
The “social network” has been linked to a staggering number of undesirable mental health problems: depression, low self-esteem, and bitter jealousy among them.
Facebook is not the culprit here, really. Is that reviewing all the people in your social circle and what happens in their lives, relevant or not, only serves to aggravate the feeling of inadequacy that many of us have.
- – Who has a new boyfriend?
- – Who has a new girlfriend?
- – Who lives life?
Too much comparison is not necessarily a good thing. In fact, it’s almost always wrong.
So let’s turn the corner here – let’s explain why a “relaxed” atmosphere is like that important to your relationship with a man.
You see, men look for many different signs and indicators of a woman’s personality. We don’t do this on a conscious level, of course.
Men have our own set of instincts that we use to discover everything from our social status to our romantic status.
A woman’s attitude is most evident in the aura she exudes when she speaks and interacts with a man.
I work out in a 24-hour gym near San Francisco. One of the little things people who see “games” that I play with a friend is choosing who we find attractive based solely on how they behave.
We try to detect those who, for lack of a better description, have a good “energy” on them.
There are women who brag about machines with the need to work stress, which is a good way to work stress.
But all too often they are as loud and stressed as they walk out the door as when they enter.
Then there are the women who manage to behave with feminine grace no matter how much they sweat it on elliptical machines. They make sense of security on his walk he just says … relaxed.
And yes, they are definitely the most attractive women in the gym. Even if they don’t wear a set of fake DD breasts and a super flat belly.
In fact, one of the women is what we will politely describe as “body”, but she is incredibly sexy.
Find ways in your life to let go of the urgency you carry with you too often.
- – Let your face soften …
- – Let your heart open …
- – Let your eyes shine …
And you’ll soon experience the warmth of attraction that not only exudes, but is returning to you.
And now we have …
Relationship Tip # 3 – Listen More Thoroughly
Another problem that often arises with my coaching clients is understanding how to listen to men.
Tragically, so many women listened to men in the same way they listened to theirs friends. And this method actually ARUINS any chance of connecting with a guy.
When you communicate with a man, you have to understand that he keeps his deepest emotions and feelings in a special closed vault.
The key to this turn is special combination code.
Are you ready for that?
It is easy…
And then, when he seems to have finished speaking, he waits.
And listen a little more.
Because it will go through a few steps to talk before digging deep and tells you exactly what you are really feeling and thinking.
The first words he says are usually the things they have in mind. He usually says, “Hmmm. I don’t know …”
It may seem like it’s completely alien to your own emotional state. But it is not!
And most women take these first words and make a quick judgment of:
“Damn. Another guy who’s not in touch with his emotions. I’ll bet he’s also afraid of serious commitment. Wow. What a shame, because he was nice and funny. I guess I’ll go back and try. Again. Is it so hard to find a boy who wants romance? “
What he doesn’t realize is that if he just gave her time and a safe space to express herself, the next things that would come out of her mouth would be a lot. deepermuch more intimate.
Let me ask you:
What do you hear when you talk to a man?
As a result, men emit special signals when they are around a woman. These signals are lost by women 95% of the timemostly because he doesn’t know what to look for.
Signs tell you things like:
- – He is interested in you …
- – He’s attracted to you …
- – Is he a “player” – or is he a guy looking for a real relationship? (TIP: Most men are NOT players. I’ll explain why on the next page …)
- – Is it a “commitment phobic”?
(GREAT CLUE: Most guys you think are “engagement phobics” aren’t).
– And much more…
If you want to know how to read men, how to understand him better than he does, you have to know how to read his signs.
Go Here Now: How To Read Your Signs – Know What You’re Thinking About – And What You Really Want From You …
– Carlos Cavallo
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