How to relax and enjoy receiving oral sex # 3:
Embrace the gift
Receiving oral can be really vulnerable, and not just because of the pressures and insecurities already mentioned.
To receive, you need to open up.
You have to lower your guard and let your partner in.
But the vulnerability is even deeper:
Receiving pleasure, feeling good about your body, is an act of self-love and self-esteem. And in our current culture, this is not something we are very good at.
Think about the challenge it can be to receive a compliment. Ever:
- Do you try to humbly deny praise?
- Do you mutter “thank you” while awkwardly avoiding eye contact?
- Completely divert a compliment by giving a compliment in return?
Getting oral sex can be a challenge in the same way. You need to push the boundaries of your comfort zone by consciously allowing love and appreciation.
But you know what: you deserve it. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to be adored, loved and adored. Totally free of guilt.
Just being aware of this can make a big difference in how you receive oral sex. And you can go one step further by establishing your intention to really focus on the act of receiving:
Feeling you open up, feeling your heart expand, feeling yourself letting in the love and appreciation your partner is showing you.
By receiving and enjoying the pleasure of oral sex, you send yourself a powerful message that you are worthy. It is a radical self-love and a sexual healing all mixed into one.
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