Remember that old adage, “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket”? Never more true than with online dating: As a dating coach / dating advisor for over 25 years, here are the tips from singles I’ve seen succeed.
1. Sign up for a paid subscription to at least two dating sites / apps.
After all, when you filled out your college applications, you didn’t bet on Stanford or Harvard, did you? You have security schools! When you invested money, you diversified — you didn’t put everything in Apple or 5G, did you?
2. Work on your social skills (maybe they rusted after 2 years of Covid?). One wise woman, okay, is that my mom told me that she always made sure to go to lunch at least once a week with girlfriends, new friends, old friends, friends of all ages. Am I the queen of meeting someone new to yoga and immediately saying “do you want to have a quick coffee”? Almost everyone says yes … and that takes you out of your same routine of friends. Plus, it keeps you sharp … and above pop culture and new topics. One of my friends turned me into “How I Built This With Guy Raz.” When I was dating, I can’t count the number of men I talked to about this podcast! If I liked Guy on the date, I liked my date (lol).
3. Accept all invitations outside the scope of online dating. A good friend invited me to her daughter’s high-level tennis tournament a few years ago; I sat next to a very witty man who became my boyfriend for a year. Who knew? And, we are still in touch because I fixed it with Antonia, a dear friend of mine and now we do a couple of things!
4. Volunteer for fun things like a golf tournament or the NFL Draft. My client Mitchell, 58, met Sarah, 59, while helping out at the U.S. Open, and guess what? They found out that they were both in Bumble at the moment and that neither of them had seen each other.
5. Walk your dog at the same time each day. Or take her to the beach at the same time each day. This increases the chances that you will meet other dog lovers repeatedly and we all know how easy it is to strike up a conversation with other furry friends. Yesterday I was walking down Luna on Atlantic Blvd in Delray Beach (it was amazing as the street was closed for the St. Patrick’s Day parade) and I came across some people I saw before they were stopping to make bowls of acai and they asked me to join them. . Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either.
6. The above is for everything: running, surfing, driving range, gym, going at the same time every day. If you’re baptizing zero after a month or two, go at a different time.
7. Take a look at the meetings in your area. Night of curiosities, excursions to pubs, excursions … there is no reason to sit at home!
While I can give you lots of advice on online dating and keep you posted throughout the process until you meet someone you love, it can be exhausting to travel to Bumble or Hinge, so take a break and try new ways to get to know yourself. people.
As one wise woman told me, “Old friends are important because you share so much history … but new ones are important because they keep you young, bright, and broaden your horizons.” Thank you, Mom, you raised 6 children, but you still maintained many friendships and tried new things constantly. (Probably why he beat my dad constantly in golf).
Life, Love and Laughter,
Andrea and Luna
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