Would you like to know how to get a guy to respect you? No effort?
Julianne, a client of mine, had been talking to me about her intermittent lover, Garrett, who was taking her for a small walk during the last months.
“We just connected at a friend’s party and it was great,” he says, “the chemistry was amazing … being together seemed very natural to me.”
However, several weeks later, Garrett had become increasingly distant, and he found an increasing number of excuses for not seeing her.
And when he wanted to meet, he was usually in the weirder sometimes, like three in the morning or something.
So it got to a point where they wouldn’t even come out Yes Julianne did not take the initiative to assemble anything.
He finally came to me to ask for my advice on how to deal with this guy.
I took a deep breath, gathered my thoughts, and this is what I told him:
Have a guy respect you number 1 – don’t wait on the phone
Really. Live your own life, not the version that is most convenient for a boy, no matter how much you yearn for it.
Instead of waiting for him to call you, hoping he will ask you to do things for yourself.
Keep your schedule as it is, and don’t start exploding about your work and other commitments to your friends and family although you think he’s an amazing guy.
One of the most common mistakes I see what women do is they put their lives on hold waitingthinking that “going further” will impress a boy.
Anyway, at least I didn’t go down without explaining myself first.
If you keep running to a guy every time he calls you, set the bar for the relationship and the kind of behavior you will have for him.
Let him know halfway. Don’t rearrange your weekly schedule if you obviously don’t value yourself enough to make the effort.
Get a guy to respect you number 2 – look at what he does, not what he says
I know how wonderful it feels to find someone who “captures” you like no one else. But don’t let romance get in the way best judgment when it comes to dating a guy.
If you really want to know where you are with him, just look at what he does. Do your tangible actions match what he tells you?
Or it’s too much talk, But not much follow-up?
This is the best indication you will never have to decide if you have to keep it …
⁇or keep walking.
And if the latter is what you see in a guy (like Garrett), the best thing you can do is NOT make him think it’s okay to treat you that way.
Most women do on the contrary and without knowing how to give the green light to these guys.
To their surprise, they end up in the same situation once and for all. They are unaware that giving in to last minute plans and, in general, mistreatment is what perpetuates this cycle.
Make a boy respect you # 3: DO NOT chase him
For most couples, it is the couple who does the persecution. And it doesn’t take anything away from women to let a guy make the effort beginning it makes you no less empowered.
I myself would not dream of letting a girl I liked chase me. This is not how it works for me personally.
Sure, there are exceptions to this, but for the most part, quality men know they have to prove to a girl that they value her before they can get anywhere with her.
So if guys like Garrett come and go as they please and expect you to accommodate them on a whim, just draw the line.
But you don’t have to have one of those “we need to talk” conversations where you tell her “how she should be” and demand that you respect.
If you really want to reach out to him, don’t lose your breath to convince him why it’s worth the effort. You know, so minimize contact with him.
Don’t call back and if he catches you on the phone, let him know that you can meet at any time. GOOD FOR YOU.
Tell him what days you’re available as politely as you can, and if he can’t get there, just say:
“That’s a shame. Let me know if there’s another time that works for both of you.”
If you can’t get your head around the fact that a relationship needs to be up and running your terms (and no not more his), do not lose sleep.
That’s why it’s so easy to get guys to respect you – you don’t have to tell them much.
If you can read a guy through his actions, your own behavior you can also send him a message. Quality guys who won’t waste your time will get this message tall and clear.
As for Julianne, she was right and put your foot down, But in a kind and dignified manner. Eventually, she connected with another man who treated her as she deserved.
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Yours, in Perfect Passion,
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED ON 9/29/2021
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