Sometimes it can be hard to let go of a relationship when it no longer helps or helps you.
Once you fall in love with someone, it is very difficult to unravel your life from that feeling you have for them. That is why it is much more important to choose wisely at the beginning.
You may find that falling in love is like buying a home. Once you’ve made a commitment, it’s very difficult to get out of it!
But you also need to be careful about the health of your relationship. If you feel that your partner is moving away or is getting cold, you have to act fast to avoid ending this relationship.
That’s why you need to know the signs to watch out for so you don’t miss anything.
Sign # 1 You must leave: the oasis has dried up!
With “Oasis” I’m really talking about your sex life. If sex stops, your relationship ends.
Sex is the water that keeps your relationship alive. Many people underestimate the importance of physical intimacy in a relationship.
For men, physical bonding is as important (if not more so) than any other type of connection you have. This is because men EXPERIENCE love rather than interpreting or hearing it from words.
Often, this is a real revelation for the women I train, who see their time in bed with their husband as a side benefit.
It’s not that sex isn’t important, it just has a different meaning. Women consider sex one expression when the connection has been established and secured.
For men, a big part of feeling the connection IS the physical part.
A REAL-actionism, as I call it.
Even when a woman sees sex as the main one in the relationship, she often does not realize how strong that connection is for her husband.
So you can’t afford to lose your sexual mojo. It is the kiss of death.
It never ceases to amaze me how many women, knowing full well than men NEED this contact in the relationship – they still play power games with him.
- Sometimes used as a power game …
- Sometimes is neglected or forgotten …
- Sometimes ignored or avoided …
But never forget it.
A little “flow and ebb” is normal. You may have some periods of slowing down … But in general you should have a lot of physical interaction, even if it is not sexual.
Make sure your relationship has a solid sexual foundation, no matter what else it may be happening.
Sign no. 2 It’s over: you tried on another pair of shoes …
If you are starting to find yourself interested in someone else, or if you are showing interest in dating others, you have a problem that needs to be fixed immediately. Or you should continue NOW NOW.
And if you know for sure that one or both of you are not being faithful, this is another warning sign for your relationship.
Look, the reality is that almost everyone (and yes, probably even YOU – if you’re honest) has cheated or been unfaithful in the past in some way. And let’s not get into Bill Clinton’s ingenuity to define this unfaithful behavior.
We could all have our feelings about how we would handle this betrayal, but if we really look at what happened, there is usually one of two things:
- You or your partner are not ready to commit to this relationship. And other people will always be a problem for you.
- You have ignored some critical areas of your relationshipand cheating was the emotional result of meeting your needs.
I think it’s time we stopped feeling so outraged and self-righteous about infidelity. It happens.
Go to LOTIn fact.
And because it does, we need to be willing to take a closer look at this behavior.
A relationship CAN survive infidelity. And you tin continue to have a stronger relationship because of this. But you have to overcome your feelings of betrayal to do so.
Some people may never be able to overcome their confidence issues to allow that person to return to their life. If you are a person who finds it difficult to trust your partner, it is worth mentioning that this will contribute to the problems within your relationship.
You may need to work on rebuilding it. But even if only for youit is worth working with these problems.
And if you’re fantasizing about other guys, you know this boy it doesn’t work for you. Drop it now and dare to be single for a while.
Sign # 3 Your relationship is over: Snoooooze ….
Simple and straightforward. Your relationship is boring you, and you don’t know how to make it more interesting again.
You’ve lost interest in him, and maybe he’s lost interest in you.
But you have to put in the energy to keep things exciting in your relationship. And boredom is a real killer when it comes to your connection to it.
We don’t need to have constant excitement, but you have to be careful of laziness.
Even the simplest changes can bring things to life. From wearing a wig to give it a new look, to trying on a new style of clothing.
Remember what I always say:
“Nothing in a relationship just ‘cares’.” – Carlos
One of the cardinal sins of relationships is to assume that just because you are in love, you can put everything in control of cruising. There’s almost nothing in life that you can afford to take care of yourself and expect it to stay the way you left it.
- Interests come and go …
- Desires increase and decrease …
- Feelings flow and flow …
You need to take care of your relationship like a plant, water it, give it the light and shade it needs, and watch your overall health.
Sign # 4 You must leave: boxing gloves instead of children’s gloves …
When it’s more fun to make war than love … You have a relationship that’s in trouble.
Some relationships manage to increase their energy by amplifying tension and arguments. There are some relationships that are grounded and work only by having arguments all the time. If they didn’t fight or argue, you wonder what they would ever talk about.
I think I need to point out a trend in some relationships that originates with women, I call it:
“Are you sure?” syndrome.
That’s when a woman isn’t entirely sure where she’s with her husband and wants to prove the connection with him. She can start a fight just to see if he will be emotionally engaged to her.
Because at the gut level, we all know that if we can’t upset someone, they probably won’t CAP feelings for us. This is a dangerous area of apathy, where there is no love or hate.
In fact, many men and women know this connection between love and hate. And they like to cause trouble just to maintain that energy, and to know that they still have the attention and interest of their partner. Even negative attention is attention, after all.
This is also more prominent with women who have it insecure clinging styles. This is a fantastic psychological term for someone who finds it difficult to trust and believe in their connection with their partner. It often comes from childhood where one or both parents were distant and unloving.
You need the ability to disagree and have a little stress from time to time. It’s just natural.
But if you’ve ever been at peace with each other and settled discussions amicably, and now you’re just fighting all the time, you have to pay attention.
You also need the desire and the will to resolve these disagreements.
Sometimes we even choose fights to get the other person to break up and free us from our guilt for losing our feelings for her.
If small things have started to bother you, your resentment is likely to poison the love you have, and it’s time to take a look at your relationship.
Sign no. 5 You have to leave: your connection is dead …
There are many signs that your love affair has faded or severed:
- Your life goals are no longer aligned You find that you are no longer going in the same direction and you want different things …
- You have asked them to go to therapy with you, but they avoid it. This usually means that they feel that it is useless. In fact, if a relationship reaches the point of needing couple therapy, it has very little chance of surviving …
- You realize he’s not the person you thought (or imagined) they were. If you have lost respect and positive feelings in your relationship, or are simply not someone you admire, you will not have a meaningful, lifelong relationship …
- Looks like you can’t communicate anymore. When you talk to each other, there is always some kind of misunderstanding, or itching when it comes to talking about feelings. One or both may be too sensitive or easily activated …
Most people tend to stay in a relationship after the connection is lost. Mostly for fear of being alone.
And believe it or not, the average time they wait to separate is about one year.
The irony is that in all this time, they could have known their soul mate if they had only taken steps to end the “bad relationship” as soon as they knew it wasn’t working.
The reality is that you will never do that REALLY know if it’s over.
You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
It depends on you.
But you can avoid most of the pain by making sure Keep the connection to your relationship alive nowand don’t let it get to the point of ending.
Your relationship demands that you keep your man obsessed with you.
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