What does it mean to have a great first date? As if nothing went crazy here and the guy was ghosting you right after the first date?
I’ll give you three things it means and three things you should do if that happens. Check out this blog for those who don’t know what a ghost is or who don’t know if they’ve experienced it.
The ghost is basically someone disappearing over you. They have an appointment with you. They’re talking to you. You feel like everything is pretty normal. And all of a sudden, they’re gone.
It’s very annoying when you’re hanging out or talking to someone for quite some time and they make you a ghost. However, what does it really mean if you go on a first date and never hear from it again?
Although it may not be as bad as being in a relationship with someone and they make you a ghost. It’s still there annoying to know that the person you went out with didn’t take the time or have courtesy to explain why they didn’t want to talk to you again.
1. You’re a ghost because you see where he is
Basically, the ghost is something that often has more to do with the person who is your ghost than the person who has been a ghost.
If you’ve had a fantastic first date and you feel like everything was pretty normal and then you never know anything about it.
When you approach him and try to receive messages, but they block you and you basically get no response.
Then he probably isn’t ready. Either he realizes that you are not the girl for him or he is just not emotionally prepared to be able to invest more in the relationship.
Either way, you have your answer about where he is with you and his emotions. And that should be enough confirmation to know that it is not worth the extra investment and time to think.
2. You have been haunted by YOU
Just because you thought it was a big date doesn’t necessarily mean he thought it was a big date.
Being a ghost is basically an opportunity to sit back and reflect on what role you have played in the process. It doesn’t mean you’re going into victim mode and it doesn’t mean there’s something horribly wrong with you or that you’re broken.
Any kind of rejection we receive in the dating process and fair life in general is an opportunity to learn more about why this happened and what we can do to prevent it from happening later.
Maybe there were a couple of things you didn’t know you were doing that were actually self-sabotaging the date you had, so I didn’t want to see you again.
Being a ghost is not acceptable behavior
Just because you’ve done something that was offline, whether it’s something totally crazy or something minor, doesn’t excuse someone’s behavior from completely ignoring you and disappearing over you.
Personally, I don’t think there’s any reason why someone can’t text and say, “Hey, it’s been a pleasure meeting you, but I don’t think we’re on the same page.”
However, we have become a lazy society with communication and we always want to take the easy path, which for many people means closing the contact and not even giving any explanation.
3. You have been haunted by circumstances
Often in relationships, if something goes wrong or someone withdraws, it’s them, you, or the circumstances. Maybe something happened and they realized it was a major family drama or something else that became their top priority. They’ve put all their energy into this instead of staying with you after the first date.
In most cases, these are not circumstances because they were circumstances. They could probably still find time to send you a message and say, “Hi, I’m sorry, I haven’t been in touch. I just don’t think this is the right time.” People may use the circumstances as an excuse for not contacting you. Then they feel that too much time has passed.
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However, in very few cases they can also be circumstances. So what do you do? Well, there are three things to learn from this experience.
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1. Remember that dating is a process of getting to know someone’s character
Realizing that your first date doesn’t necessarily indicate that you know everything about this person will help relieve the pressure and create a more realistic expectation on that first date.
What we can usually do is get excited about going on a date with someone, especially if you’ve met on a dating app, had a couple of conversations, and finally, the time is right to meet. face. -to face.
There are some butterflies.
Maybe there’s some chemistry and we wanted to work. Okay? We’re not going on dates because we don’t want him to go out.
We go on dates because we want it to work and hopefully it will eventually lead us to love.
However, you literally know a lot about someone from a first date and you have to remember that knowing someone’s character is something that will happen over time.
If you’ve really decided to go it cheap and risk the low bandwidth you are only fooling yourself when it comes to dating.
It makes no sense to try to get answers from them or try to find out more about who they are.
Someone is ghosting you after a first date and is not even kind enough to send you a text message and say, “Hey, I don’t want to see you again” should be a sufficient indication that it’s not the right person for you and you just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
2. You need to make sure you’re not looking for answers
The reason the ghost is so disturbing and makes us anxious is because we feel that we don’t have the closure we deserve or that we want that person to literally disappear over us.
It’s like, “Come on. How hard it is to just say, ‘Hey, I don’t want to see you again.’ Is that something I did?
As humans, we yearn for certainty because certainty gives us a kind of sense of control and direction.
However, in this case, you already have the true result of that person you were dating.
This is not meant to be. So your closure is in the act of what they did, not necessarily in the answers you are looking for as to why they did it in the first place.
3. Speaking all closing
This is an opportunity to close the chapter on that date and that person and be able to move forward. Don’t go and keep talking about it in conversations. “Oh, that guy was following me ghostly or that guy was ghosting me after the first date.”
Every time you keep concentrating on it because you may still feel like you don’t have a lock, you’re still confused. You are magnifying this incident and therefore you are blocking other opportunities from coming into your love life.
Closure is an option. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
Not worth my time. Therefore, I will choose to move forward. I will choose not to talk about it. I will choose not to focus on that. “
I will choose to put my energy into things that can help you avoid being a ghost later on. Whether this is love education or watching one of my workouts.
You’re working on some of the things that are inside of you to make you a nicer woman. I also have a guide on this below or if only to be able to identify which man is really prepared and emotionally available.
Conclusion about staying ghosted after the first date
Either way, we always have a choice every time an incident like this happens in our life. If you choose to put your energy into building new ones instead of trying to resurrect the dead of the old.
Then you will have a much better chance and a much better result if you are putting your energy into something more positive.
I hope I’ve given you peace of mind and answers about why you were ghosted on the first date. Unfortunately, this is very common.
Statistically speaking, men are actually more ghosts than women. We don’t just fly disproportionate things. Either way, it’s a shame.
I made a video about what to do if a ghost comes back into your life and wants to reconnect.
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