Conflict Resolution in Neurodiverse Relationships

Conflict Resolution in Neurodiverse Relationships

Learn how to navigate conflict and other difficult conversations when Neurodiverse affects your relationship.

In Neurodiverse Relationships, you may find yourself in conflict with your partner over issues such as who does what around the house or who pays for dinner. While this can be frustrating and stressful, it’s important to remember that your partner has a different way of viewing the world than you do. This doesn’t mean they’re wrong; it just means they have different needs and expectations than you do. But don’t worry—there are ways you can manage these differences successfully!

Accept Your Differences

Accepting your differences is an important step in conflict resolution. It’s not about apologizing for them, but rather acknowledging that you’re different and that there are going to be times when you disagree. If you can accept this, then it will be easier for both of you to work through any disagreement or conflict without feeling too threatened by each other’s perspectives.

The next step is understanding how the other person sees things differently than yourself—and finding ways around differences rather than trying to change them altogether (which may not always be possible). This can mean learning how their thought processes work; understanding their point-of-view while still respecting yours; taking turns explaining what they mean when they speak without making assumptions about what others think based on how they sound or look (for example: “I’m sorry if I sounded offended by what she said earlier today.”); etcetera…

Pay Attention to Nonverbal Cues

If you or your partner is neurodivergent, it’s essential to be aware of nonverbal cues. When someone is upset or frustrated, their tone of voice may become louder and more emotional than usual. They might also use words that are less direct or concrete (e.g., “I’m angry,” instead of simply saying “I’m angry”). This can make it difficult for you to understand what the person is saying and how best to respond.

In addition to listening for these changes in language patterns when communicating with someone who has autism spectrum disorder (ASD), pay attention to body language as well: Do they have their arms folded across their chest? Are they leaning away from you? Do they seem tense when talking?

How do you communicate in a neurodiverse relationship?

Tune in to Their Needs

The first step in resolving conflict is tuning in to your partner’s needs. If you’re having a conversation and they are making sense, and yet you still feel angry or frustrated because they haven’t responded to what you said earlier, then it might be helpful for them to hear the message that was sent.

To do this effectively:

  • Listen deeply – listen carefully enough so that their words are not lost on you (and if they aren’t making much sense at all, let them know). This means listening without interrupting or judging–just letting everything sink into your brain like a sponge so it can absorb everything without being filtered through any preconceived notions about how things should go down; * Remember why this person exists in life–this relationship doesn’t exist just because of one person’s emotions; there must be some shared goal(s) between both parties involved in order for this relationship to succeed over time.* Pay attention when someone says something negative about themselves (especially if it’s related directly to another member of their own family). It may seem obvious but often times we forget what makes us special when faced with adversity during tough times such as these ones!

How to manage conflict in a neurodiverse relationship.

In a neurodiverse relationship, you need to accept your partner’s differences. This can be difficult for many people who have been in relationships where everyone seemed to fit into a neat, tidy box of expectations. But accepting that your partner might not share the same values, beliefs, and opinions as you does not mean they are wrong or bad—it just means they are different!

By taking this approach (and paying attention to nonverbal cues), you’ll be able to tune into what makes them tick and how they feel about things. You may even find that their needs differ from yours—for example, if one person is more introverted than another person; perhaps it would help if both partners were more outgoing at social events.


Conflict can be tricky to navigate when you have a neurodiverse relationship. But with these tips, you’ll be able to better understand why your partner may be acting out and what you can do about it. And remember: no matter how tough things get in your relationship, don’t give up! You never know how much time and effort it will take before your partner feels comfortable telling you what’s going on without feeling judged or disbelieved by others who think they know more than they do (which happens often). So stick with each other through thick & thin—and always communicate openly so there aren’t any misunderstandings or surprises down the road!

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