Are you still in love with your ex-boyfriend?
I watched an episode of a show that made me think about the breakups and how an ex resonates in someone’s head.
Do people want to go back with an ex because they really love that person?
Or they are in love with it IDEA of that person?
In case an ex stays in the land of Out of sight out of mind for good? Or is it worth bringing them back to your reality?
Well, the best way to answer that is to find out if your reasons for wanting to come back are healthy or not.
First of all, it should be understood that, in general, people tend to do this romanticize the past. It is easy to downplay the not so bright parts of your relationship, especially the breakup.
That’s why you should consider the possibility that you’re looking back on the relationship with whom color nostalgia glasses.
It is human nature: who wants to remember all those horrible moments in which they fought?
It is natural to push uncomfortable thoughts in the back of your head; but you have to deal with it discomfort However.
Otherwise, you might be sticking your hand in the same emotional wasp nest that left you itching not long ago.
With that, you need to take a good look at the reasons why you broke up to get started. This is the most important factor to know if it is worth going back with the man you are looking forward to.
Couples are separated for two basic reasons:
– They had very different needs, or
– Negative thoughts and feelings overwhelmed the relationship
You are willing to do that address the issues surrounding these motives with your ex? It’s a big mistake to have a relationship with him again without think things through first.
You probably do repeat destructive patterns unless you replace them with positive ones. Or at the very least, you should work hard to agree to disagree with your fundamental differences.
Here’s another thought: ruptures usually reveal that of a person need. That’s why it’s also the best time to ask yourself the following:
– Did your existence revolve around him and the relationship?
– When you were single again, was there a big gap? Wondering how long your schedule was after the break?
– Was there an empty void that only he or the relationship could fill?
Saying “yes” to most of these means that you may have relied too much on the relationship validate you.
It could also mean that the desire to get back with your ex comes from a place of need or despair. This is not a good basis for a new relationship.
The fear of being alone is MAY a good reason.
The best thing right now is to ask yourself these questions difficult questions while going through the recovery process BEFORE initiating any contact with him.
You will win at better perspective once you have reevaluated your reasons and cleared your head.
Then you will be in one best position a decide if you have to go back with your ex or find someone who suits you better.
The only thing you should NOT do after a breakup is be afraid of ending up with another guy.
Who knows, you may be closing your door to a whole world of wonderful possibilities.
Speaking of other things you shouldn’t do, women make the mistake of not focusing on their man’s only thing. Connection style. Knowing how to do this can prevent a breakup in the first place.
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Yours, in Perfect Passion,
– Carlos Cavallo
UPDATED ON 9/28/2021
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