If you want to get married, how do you know if it’s him? Are you ready for marriage? In addition to giving weight due to chemistry and other concerns, you can do some “litmus test” to find out what qualities you have that you can accept and what problems they represent.
Preparation for marriage is necessary. It cannot be forced. When it’s ready, it’s ready and not a moment before. If you are able to manipulate a not ready man to marry you, it might bother you for a long time. You don’t want that, do you? So do a prep test.
The characters on the TV show “Sex and the City” once compared a man ready to marry a taxi: at some point, he becomes ready to get engaged. Her “available” light comes on and the next woman in her life gets the ring.
Signs of your disposition
One can notice the difference between a man who has the light on and one who only leads in the dark. Here are some positive signs of your disposition:
- He no longer likes the bachelor scene.
- It is financially independent.
- At least he is able to talk about the idea of commitment.
- He wants to be a father or is willing to be a stepfather, if that applies to you.
- She is your boyfriend by name, your husband in spirit. He makes plans for the future, introduces you to his family and friends. He calls you regularly, wanting to know about your day and to tell you about his. He is open and honest.
Financial independence refers especially to a man who wants to start a family because he is likely to want to be financially secure before marriage. Regardless of your age and stage of life, if you want a responsible partner who is able to commit to a job, pay their bills, etc., look for these qualities.
If a man opposes any talk about your future, he is probably not ready for marriage. To test the waters more, tell them directly how you feel. You can honestly say you’re wondering if he’s dating in hopes of finding a woman or if he’s just, well, dating.
Signs you don’t like
If he says he doesn’t want to get married, believe him and move on. But even if you want to, make sure the answer to questions like these is a clear “No”:
- Do you spend irresponsibly?
- Do you speak negatively of marriage?
- Does it hurt to be unreliable or abusive? or lying, cheating or flirting with other women?
Watch out for the red flags. If you want a good husband who is ready for marriage, know that one “Yes” any of the above questions will probably disqualify you, even if it’s lovely and you say you love it.
Long-term compatibility test
Talk about your life together after marriage. Even many couples who live together first say that marriage changes their relationship.
Tell each one of you what matters. Perhaps my husband sensed that she was not made for a traditional gender-based division of responsibilities. One night, as we sat on the couch in my living room, long before we got engaged, he said, “I’m not the kind of man who waits for his wife to dine at the table at a certain time “.
Green light for me. I could be myself with him.
Here’s what you need to try: Is it okay to be with yourself and to be able to accept your differences over time?
This article originally appeared in PsychCentral.
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