The first few appointments are nerve-wracking and you may be worried that you will inadvertently ruin this important first meeting. However, if you adhere to a few easy principles, you can relax and enjoy. Follow these rules to ensure successful dating …
Reach an IRL date
The first step on the road to successful dating is to show up. You may have spent some time chatting online and feel that you have a connection to someone, but you will not know for sure if all the important chemistry is there unless you are in real life. It’s important to get to know someone sooner rather than later, so that you don’t end up feeling like you’ve invested more in them than you would otherwise.
Remember that they will also be nervous
Even the safest person in the world will feel a tremor from the nerves of the first date, so don’t assume you’re the only one who’s worried about making a good impression. Knowing that the person sitting in front of you is also nervous will help you relax. Also, if you feel tense, tell them! They will probably say the same thing and the ice will break.
Keep your phone out of sight
We all have very high codependencies with our smartphones, but this is a time when we have to deal without it. Keeping an eye on WhatsApp makes you think you’re not really interested in your date and they’ll be discouraged from seeing you again. Giving your full attention to someone is a very attractive trait, so leave your phone in your purse or pocket.
Do your homework
Even if you chat a little online, do your homework before your date. Please re-read their profile and review the emails you’ve shared to stay up-to-date on what you’ve talked about and any information you’ve learned about them. However, we don’t suggest that you search for them on Google or scroll back through the last ten years of their Facebook profile, as knowing too much about them may seem a little daunting.
Don’t get drunk
Having several drinks to have Dutch courage may seem like a good idea when you feel the nerves of the first date, but getting drunk is not a good idea. You may loosen your tongue a little, and before you know it, you’ve spent the whole day talking about your ex or complaining about your work. You have one or two, but you know when to stop.
Do not insist on setting another date at the end
Unless it’s obvious that you both really want to see each other again, don’t push your date to schedule another date at the end of the night. They may not be sure, or they may have another scheduled date, or they may only react badly when pushed to another meeting before the first one ends. End with “It was great to meet you, I’ll send you a text message in a couple of days” or something similar that expresses your enjoyment but doesn’t get caught up in anything else.
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