Updated December 9, 2020
Confused about starting a conversation on Bumble or Tinder? Try any of these 15 initiators to roll the ball and connect with more men through dating apps.
How to start a conversation on Bumble or Tinder
As you know on Tinder, anyone can start a conversation, but in Bumble the woman has to start.
Either way, it’s time to figure out how to get a man’s attention on the dating app so you can find “The One”.
Humor is a winning approach. Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge offer tips on how to start a conversation, and I’ve picked up a couple.
Then I added several of my own lines to the list below.
The idea is to highlight and capture the attention of a man. Many of my coaching clients started using very lame openers.
You definitely want to avoid anything that can be answered with yes, no or “good”.
The typical talk will not work
For example, many women try, “How’s the week going?” Doesn’t that make sense because the only thing a man can answer is “good” and where does that lead? Nowhere!
You don’t know each other, so explaining what really happened during the week won’t be a successful opening. This question is best for people you already know.
Once I explained to my clients how to better engage men through apps, their ability to engage in fun conversations improved significantly.
You want a man to be curious about you, so he wants to know MORE about you. This will answer and you can start chatting to see if there is a connection.
The goal is to get an appointment
To have a date, you need to stand out from all the other women in the app. Some of these tips on starting a conversation at Bumble are one-line and some have a flirtatious twist.
Try a bunch of these tips to see what works best for you. Of course, you can start by asking a question about something in your profile or photos.
However, there are many men who do not say much about themselves, write almost nothing or spend little on their photos.
These suggestions are for when these usual options are not available.
The first simple texts ask basic questions for singles over the age of 50. If you are younger, you will get the idea and be able to create your own comparisons that are more appropriate for your age group.
For example, a Glamor Magazine The article recommended this question about the TV show Friends: “Do you think Ross and Rachel really broke up?”
This works for older singles who watched the show when it aired live, as well as younger ones who discover the show today on Netflix.
Which is better for relationships: Tinder or Bumble?
There are two major differences between Tinder and Bumble. The first is that women should start the conversation on Bumble. Started by a woman and a former Tinder employee, Bumble was created with women in mind. You have more control with the Bumble app over the dating process.
The second big difference is that the matches expire in Bumble, which gives people the impetus to start a conversation NOW. If you postpone, you lose to Bumble. This means you can participate and learn more about matches and start dating.
On the other hand, Tinder with its “Connection” reputation results in fewer connections with lasting power. However, people still know and fall in love with Tinder, so the choice is yours.
Here is a post that talks about several different apps.
How To Make A Bumble Dating
What do all these openers have in common? They do not question or require revealing anything too personal. One-liners are fun, non-threatening, and easy to answer, so they’re effective!
Most of all, you want to avoid contacting qualifying questions because you won’t get real answers. However, you can keep away from men who do not want to be questioned.
What is a qualifying question? Here are some tips that you may think are important to know in advance, but which won’t help you create a fun connection.
- Why did you get divorced?
- How long have you been in the app?
- Why are you still single?
- What caused your last breakup?
- How are your dates?
These questions are too personal, invasive, and frankly not your business when you are just getting in touch. You can ask about divorce and breakup later, after knowing that you like them and have established some trust. Then you are also more likely to get more accurate answers.
The goal is to create some fun while you connect so you have a chance to talk on the phone and then get together. That’s the point, isn’t it?
The easier and more fun you make the first contact, the more likely you are to create a deeper connection and have a date!
Bumble’s first post
1. Coca-Cola or Pepsi?
The “Glue Wars” have been going on for decades and it’s fun to figure out which side someone will take. It’s not personal and comes out of nowhere, and brings back memories of a younger era for the person you’re asking for.
2. The Rolling Stones or the Beatles?
Going back to the 1960s and the time of the British invasion (here in the US) is another great way to regain a sense of youth. This is perfect for singles over the age of 50, but it’s a fun question about music preference for any age.
3. Thriller Vs. Drama?
This is another fun comparison based on your TV viewing habits. There are many genres to choose from if they don’t work for you, such as legal drama, westerns, police programming, comedy, science fiction, fantasy, medical drama, and more. Choose your own favorite Netflix genres or programs to ask, we’ll have a conversation soon.
4. Mountains vs. by the sea?
Exploring where you prefer to spend your free time can open up a rich way to talk about vacations, fast travel, and where people feel better.
5. What is your favorite pizza?
Some people are purists and only like cheese, while others consider a wide range of toppings, from spinach and broccoli to bacon or pineapple. it’s just a fun question and easy to answer.
Beautiful first posts on Bumble
6. What is your favorite travel destination?
Who doesn’t love going on vacation? Talking about travel and vacation will probably put someone in a good mood in the same way that free time does.
You can learn a lot about the meaning of a person’s adventure from where they like to go and whether they repeat the same vacation over and over or always go to a new place.
7. How do you spend a rainy Sunday?
This question helps you to know a person’s free time and the creativity he has with him.
Does the boy just watch sports or movies or is he looking for something more exciting like a museum? Or maybe they get a few friends together and play cards.
8. What is your sign?
Asking about astrology is always fun and such a popular topic today. People love to talk about themselves without being too personal. Although he is not so interested in astrology, he is probably familiar with its sun sign.
9. Did you just wink at me?
This is a playful and flirty line designed to make a man think. Obviously, he didn’t wink at you, but that doesn’t matter. Flirting is fun and this is a great way to start.
10. What do you do when you don’t melt me?
Another flirtatious opener, this appeals to his side and male ego. Telling a man to melt you is very helpful and you could warm him up if you need to.
What to say to Bumble: more suggestions
11. What would you do if the lottery hit you?
Here’s how you can learn a little about your dreams by asking yourself what you would do if you didn’t have to work harder or make a lot of money. Pure fun.
12. Jazz, rock or country?
Music is a great topic to start a conversation and this is a classic question. Many men love music and will love to talk about their favorite genres and artists. Having common musical interests can help you build bonds.
13. East coast or west?
Everyone has a preference, and this is also a way to find out where they are from. This question is a good example of how to start a conversation in Bumble or other dating applications.
14. Tell me two truths and a lie.
I had never heard of this little game, but apparently it has become quite popular as a conversation starter.
You’ll have to guess what the lie is and you’ll see how much text it generates. Be creative with your own answers!
15. Can I buy you a drink or do you prefer cash?
This is an old collection line that reaches a man out of nowhere and will surely catch his eye.
Another flirty option, the humor of this unique line could open doors and start conversations with men you might not otherwise connect with.
Send messages to a guy on Bumble or Tinder
Now you know. If you’ve been brainstorming how to start a conversation on Bumble, you have 15 new creative ways to contact apps and start a conversation with a man. Now you have no excuses!
Be brave and maybe bold! Don’t just try the pizza line. Try some of the first flirtations because you never know exactly what will help you connect with “The One” and be the beginning of the magic that is love.
On the other hand, when you are constantly worried, evaluating each man as if he were the only one, you are not at your best or your energy. This means that you come from a place of scarcity or lack, for fear of not finding the right man for you. That’s why the most important thing you can do is relax, be playful, and just have fun.
If a man does not answer, what? come in! There are many men online and apps and more are joining every day.
Stop wondering how to start a conversation on Bumble or Tinder and do it! The sooner you start, the faster you can find the love you want.
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