Whenever I was asked for a first date, it always seemed like there were countless happy hour drinks in the bars I had been to several times before.
Don’t get me wrong, this can be a lot of fun, but it’s nice to mix it up and not feel like you’re earning 15 years eating and drinking all week.
People often ask me for suggestions for the first date that don’t involve too much commitment.
And I get it, if you just don’t feel it, you want to be able to get out of the dodge quickly.
However, thinking this way means you’re anticipating a bad date … first.
Why not expect a date to go well?
And so here’s a list of 10 different first date ideas that don’t involve happy hour and create connection between two people.
Why not suggest that you do something fun and outdoor like hiking? My husband and I were strolling through the rose gardens next to my apartment, or we were just somewhere with relatively easy hiking trails. You can spend some time in nature and you are moving your body, which generates endorphins.
Plus, you don’t have to be looking directly at the person all the time, which can make it easier for the conversation to flow a little.
Obviously this only makes sense if you both have a dog, but if you do, it’s a great option! Dog parks are usually quiet and pleasant places. You can focus on both your dogs and others to make the appointment easier. If all goes well, you can always take a walk or have a drink afterwards.
If it doesn’t go so well, you can easily jump after 30 minutes and blame your dog!
Does your city have a large foreign market? If you do, this is a great place to date! Most farmers markets sell much more than products, such as flowers, candles, ice cream, specialty food trucks … you know the idea. There are so many things to look forward to when you go for a walk.
Breakfast is always a great idea for a first date. Shake things up after work or drinks at work. You can ask someone to go to a fun breakfast place on the weekend. You can always have a mimosa or a bloody mary! Or just have a good breakfast and move on with the day, leaving them wanting more.
Who doesn’t love ice cream? Asking someone who knows you for an ice cream is a relatively quick and easy idea to get to know someone.
Sure, this is more of a nightmare than grabbing an ice cream, but what better way to connect than laugh with someone? So funny! It would also show you if you don’t have the same sense of humor or if the other person doesn’t have a sense of humor.
When my husband and I first went out, I grabbed a blanket, a bottle of wine, and some sandwiches, and we were going to sit in a park somewhere. It’s a relaxed way to unwind, be out in the wild, and encourage conversation.
Doing something that is fun and a little competitive is a great idea for different dates that doesn’t involve happy hour! Also, if one person is much better than the other in bowling or ice skating, it gives him a chance to show off his skills and the other a chance to laugh at themselves.
My husband is a great skater, and he would have to literally bump into a wall to stop me. We would break up.
Be like the kids and go to a theme park or carnival! That means spending at least a few hours, which might be a little risky on a first date, but if you double-click, I guarantee you’ll have fun.
Instead of sitting in a coffee shop, having a coffee together, or if you’re really looking forward to a happy hour, make an Irish coffee. Put it in a carrying cup and go for a walk. Go somewhere in your area that is new to both of you if you want to be more adventurous.
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